I was a kid growing up in New York, I dreamed of playing for the Yankees.
Unlike many kids who shared that dream, I worked extra hard to turn my lofty
goal into a reality. I played baseball year-round, went to camps, and even met
some coaches and scouts who I thought would help me one day. And as a
Christian, I had one more tool to help me achieve my goal: prayer. Since God
loves to answer prayer—I was told—I had no doubts about my future.
I aged into my late teens, my prayers continued but the phone calls never came.
I never grew those final inches, my throwing arm never matured, and my
started to tear. My professional career in the Bronx simply wasn’t going to
happen. To be blunt, it wasn’t going to happen anywhere. But since
my dream was dressed in prayer, how could it fail? Was God unloving for not realizing
the one dream I cared about? Was he too weak to grant a simple request to a
I was told by a well-meaning Christian that God always answers yes to prayerswhenever they are for “good things” like health, wealth, or
success. When this friend said that, my mind shot back to my careernotplaying for the Yankees. Would playing baseball
in the Bronx have been good? Oh yeah. Would keeping my shoulder intact have helped?
Without a doubt. Would catching for pitchers like Andy Pettitte or Mariano Rivera
brought me wealth? Okay, these are easy questions. So how could a loving God
say no to my prayer that would have brought me such happiness?
have some answers, but they aren’t all warm and fuzzy. In fact, my well-meaning
friend is not going to like the rest of this entry—you may not either. Hopefully,
we’ll still be friends. Frankly, there are a lot of reasons God says no.
1. God says no because
he sees the big picture.
didn’t make it to the Yankees because God had other plans for me (see Jeremiah
29:11). If I had a career in baseball, I would not have met my wife, had my
amazing kids, and be involved in the church where I’ve served weekly for nearly
20 years. And who—besides God—could possibly know what the plan is for my son
(or his great-great-great-grandson), who has a life because I didn’t play
I had been catching fastballs in New York, I would have missed out on God’s
plan that he had prepared in advance for me: “We are God’s
handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in
advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10 niv).
God says no because we are too shortsighted.
Our prayers often revolve around what we want: money, a
spouse, a better job, a long life. We focus on these external things. I think
God might pay these things notice in the same way as I learned to appreciate my
toddler’s interests, but his concerns are much greater: “The Lord does not look at the things people
look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Samuel
my kids were toddlers, I learned to play their games and spend time with them
at their level. But imagine what a terrible father I would have been if I did
not have a bigger picture and purpose for my kids. Don’t misunderstand. I’m not
calling prayers for a spouse or health trivial. But compared to God’s glorious
plan, they do pale in importance. Like a child who has a limited view, we may
not agree with God’s plan, but one day we’ll realize that God’s plan is bigger.
3. God says no because
his primary concern is not my earthly happiness.
Did I really write that? I can see someone saying, “Wait a minute. I read what
you wrote, but you couldn’t have meant it that way.”
I’m sorry. I did mean it that way.
I serve a God who
is bigger than I can ever imagine. He stands outside the timeline of humanity
so that he can see all human history with just a glance (see 2 Peter 3:8). God’s
goals are to demonstrate his love to earth (John 3:16), to reveal his glory
(Isaiah 48:9–11), and to bring as many people to salvation as possible (2 Peter
it reasonable that someone’s poverty could cause the kingdom
of God to advance (#MotherTeresa)? Is it possible that someone’s horrific suffering might
bring others to faith (#CorrietenBoom)? Is it feasible that
an awful, untimely death might lead to the salvation of thousands (#JimElliot)?
does not cause evil, but he is big enough to bring good out from it. If my
spouse dies, is God uncaring? If I contract cancer, is God unfeeling? Not at
all. God cares deeply as a good father would. But he can also see outside this
moment of awful pain to a purpose we cannot understand.
is no accident that the above examples of Mother Teresa, Corrie ten
Jim Elliot are 30–50 years old, because sometimes it is only with the
perspective of age and time that some of these senseless
things begin to make sense.
God always answer our prayers? Yes. Does he always answer them the way we want?
Thank God, he loves us too much to do that. If God answered prayers only
by granting our requests, he would be no more than a genie or good luck charm.